Response rates for online dating are already pretty low thanks to high volume, millions of users, and most apps where someone can’t respond unless they have a premium account. So, knowing this, it probably doesn’t come as a shock just how important it is to stand out in a sea of messages. That’s what we’re ... Read more The post How to Stand Out in a Sea of “Hey” and “What’s up?” When Dating first appeared on Healthy Framework.
Response rates for online dating are already pretty low thanks to high volume, millions of users, and most apps where someone can’t respond unless they have a premium account.
So, knowing this, it probably doesn’t come as a shock just how important it is to stand out in a sea of messages.
That’s what we’re going to do today, and I want to start with some great news.
Most of the messages people receive through online dating are subpar at best. They are “hey” and “what up” and several other similar variations.
How is that good news? We’ll, it means that standing out by using a quality first message is a lot easier than you might think.
Today, I want to give you some additional tips on how to send the perfect first message. And if you haven’t read the guide I just linked already, I would highly recommend starting there as it’s the basis and framework of these tips.
The two go hand in hand.
With all that said, let’s get into the tips to stand out with your online dating messages.
Don’t treat them like chat.
The reason most people just send “hey” or “sup” is because they are treating online dating apps like chats. Yes, they are technically chats, but your first message needs to more closely resemble an email (at least in the content) than a simple hey.
Take the time to actually put some meat and potatoes into your message.
They very well may just see your first message and decide if they want to stay matched and continue the conversation. If it’s just a ‘hey’, you might get unmatched quickly.
Don’t assume they know anything about you.
Often, people craft first messages assuming that the other person already knows things about them or has read their profile. Don’t make that mistake. Assume they know nothing, so start with introducing yourself!
If your message is good enough to pique their interest, THEN they will probably click through to see your profile.
Demonstrate that you read their profile.
In the guide I linked, this gets covered extensively, but I wanted to make it an extra point to drive it home.
Make sure that your message isn’t a cookie cutter one that could be sent to anyone.
Really make sure they know that you read their profile and took the time to see if they’d be a good match.
Now, don’t go so far to make it seem like you researched them or studied their profile, but at least a nod of acknowledgement to something they have in there will go a long way. Ideally, it’s something from the text part of their profile, but from a photo is okay as well.
Put in effort.
This last one is the end all, be all. Put effort into the message. Take some time to make sure it sounds nice. Include the nod that you read their profile. Share something less-than-generic about you. Ensure there aren’t typos or grammatical errors.
It shouldn’t take you forever to do this, but it should at least take you a few minutes. If you are rushing and not putting in effort, it will show.
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