When you figure out out move forward…..

This saying when you figure it out move forward or when you feel depressed or in grief to be told you can just snap out of it. Those sayings make me want to scream. I just don’t get why people say these things. I know they are trying to help but that’s not helpful. I used to think there was something wrong with me. Why couldn’t I just snap out of it. Why did I have depression or now grief. Yes we do have choices in our lives. Wow do you realize that if we snapped our fingers we would no longer have mental health issues.

I used to think I was weak because I couldn’t get my stuff together. I didn’t plan on grieving for almost a year for my best friend who died. I didn’t plan on grieving for my dad when he can’t be there for me anymore.

I think of all the other people in the world who are told the same similar things that makes them think that there is something wrong with them. Mental health issues still have stigma around them. Why, why do people not understand?

Last night I feel like I was treated as fragile because I can’t figure out why I feel a certain way. Poor Sarah she can’t get it together. At least I’m dealing with my feelings and what’s happening not stuffing then under the carpet or using an addiction to deal with it. I’m feeling those feelings. I hate how that feeling makes me feel but I realize it’s not about me. It’s the people who said that.

The next time someone says that to you, why not listen to what they are going through and be compassionate. We all have feelings and if we are not in the same space as you that’s ok.