ADHD & Marriage News - December 6, 2023 Quote of the Week �Virtually all of our accomplishments occur through value creation and virtually all our failures owe to devaluing (value destruction).� Consider who is more likely to maintain healthy...
ADHD & Marriage News - December 6, 2023
Quote of the Week
�Virtually all of our accomplishments occur through value creation and virtually all our failures owe to devaluing (value destruction).� Consider who is more likely to maintain healthy weight:� the person who values health or the one who devalues her body?"
- Steven Stosny, PhD
Value Creation and ADHD-Impacted Relationships
Consider your relationships.� Which are happiest and which are hardest?� In which ones are you most likely to devalue the other person�or be devalued by the other person (most likely, both)?
Then think about your hardest interactions.� Criticism, venting, correcting � these are all forms of devaluing the efforts of another, or even that other person herself.
Now think about the reward-focused, ADHD brain.� It is a brain that is hard-wired through the attention and reward system to respond to positive feedback.
I don�t want to delve too deeply into specific examples here.� Rather, I ask you to take a few minutes to just think about this question:� How might overtly trying to create value in my interactions with my partner, and stop devaluing my partner, change how we are as a couple?� And, in tandem, what do I need from my partner that would make me feel more valued?
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Resources For those in relationships impacted by ADHD
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ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar�- Is your relationship in trouble?�My highly acclaimed 9-session Zoom seminar�has helped many couples thrive in�healthier, happier relationships. Registration Open. Starts February 2024.
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How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD;�
Downloadable chapters of my books;
A�community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
A�large number of blog posts on various topics;
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